The Pandemic and Entrepreneur Relationship Struggles

Hello Again!

It’s been a long while. Call it a combination of fear of saying the wrong thing, depletion from coaching all day, and repulsion from alllll the noise, I disengaged from the virtual world, including my email list.

Instead, I started writing my second book.  

I found it cathartic to sit at a screen, in my own little bubble, and just write about the observations of what I was witnessing in entrepreneur relationships. The same issues were continually coming up for my clients in the UK, Sweden, Canada, all over the US, and Hawaii.

The pandemic and subsequent shut-downs forced entrepreneur couples to start dealing with all the “cans that had been kicked down the road” for years. The typical escape routes of busy schedules, gyms, work trips, and kids’ activities closed, and suddenly, there they were; face-to-face with a spouse they couldn’t tell if they loved or hated.

What all issues boil down to

In the absence of all the noise, we were able to reduce all of their issues down to one detrimental factor: CONTROL.

In short, they were looking for deeper connection, but felt too controlled, judged, or manipulated by their spouse to let their guard down.

I saw these relationships were simply a microcosm of society-at-large. The common denominator in my entrepreneur clients’ relationships were being perfectly reflected in the saga happening in the world.

Honoring security and autonomy

It was all coming down to one thing…

A DESIRE TO HONOR SECURITY & AUTONOMY INSIDE A POLARIZED SYSTEM.

Is there room for safety and freedom? Of course.

Is there room for science and conscientious questioning? Definitely

Is there room for marriage and individuality? Absolutely (and its necessary)

Is there room for passion & parenting? Sure

Is there room for ambition & contentment? Yep

There’s room for all of it, but it requires an absolute clarity and commitment to knowing our own truth. I’ve found that pursuit has skyrocketed on the priority lists lately, which can shake the foundation of an established relationship.

Do these evolving values mean the relationship ends? Not necessarily.

But integrating new values into an existing relationship can be tough. I’ve spent the past 18 months helping established couples redefine their relationships. It’s opened up some REALLY juicy strategies that I’m excited to share.

So, I wanted to start there and say hello so you have some context for my messages again. If you’re feeling compelled to give voice to your truth, whether it’s in a relationship, or work, or community setting, I hope you find that voice.

Know I’m celebrating that voice and the courage it takes to use it.

All the love,

xo

Kelly